Comments on: Being nice will get you far - so don’t be a dbag! http://mamasontheweb.com/2008/06/19/being-nice-will-get-you-far-so-dont-be-a-dbag/ Helping Moms Earn Money Online Wed, 07 Jan 2009 07:56:33 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 By: Cassie http://mamasontheweb.com/2008/06/19/being-nice-will-get-you-far-so-dont-be-a-dbag/comment-page-1/#comment-7063 Cassie Fri, 20 Jun 2008 07:24:12 +0000 http://mamasontheweb.com/?p=133#comment-7063 Well everyone makes mistakes. I've certainly made more than my fair share of them. The important thing though is to learn from them. I hope the douchebags I'm referring to learn as well :) I can tell you're one of the nice ones Rick. You have gone far and you will continue to go further. Thank you! Well everyone makes mistakes. I’ve certainly made more than my fair share of them. The important thing though is to learn from them. I hope the douchebags I’m referring to learn as well :)

I can tell you’re one of the nice ones Rick. You have gone far and you will continue to go further.

Thank you!

]]> By: Rick Butts http://mamasontheweb.com/2008/06/19/being-nice-will-get-you-far-so-dont-be-a-dbag/comment-page-1/#comment-7062 Rick Butts Fri, 20 Jun 2008 07:17:29 +0000 http://mamasontheweb.com/?p=133#comment-7062 Awwww... I know you are a good mom and a good coder and a clever (and stressed out) wahm. Nearly 2 years ago I had back surgery and was strung out on Vicodin for several months - as many as 14 a day (extra strength no less). When I look back on that time I was so cranky and irritable - I pushed everyone away from me - every one who cared - and destroyed anyone who crossed me verbally. Nice Rick Butts? (I'm SUCH a sweet guy in reality!) I sent some dreadfully mean emails during that time, one's I'd like to have back. Know this: what you said in your blog is not mean at all and in the same way I comment on the parade (the stuff passing in front of me) it just reflected the way we all see mean people and junk. Blessings to you - and take care of yourself. And, if I may ever be of any assistance to you - please don't hesitate to let me know? Rick Butts http://rickbutts.com Awwww…

I know you are a good mom and a good coder and a clever (and stressed out) wahm.

Nearly 2 years ago I had back surgery and was strung out on Vicodin for several months - as many as 14 a day (extra strength no less).

When I look back on that time I was so cranky and irritable - I pushed everyone away from me - every one who cared - and destroyed anyone who crossed me verbally.

Nice Rick Butts? (I’m SUCH a sweet guy in reality!)

I sent some dreadfully mean emails during that time, one’s I’d like to have back.

Know this: what you said in your blog is not mean at all and in the same way I comment on the parade (the stuff passing in front of me) it just reflected the way we all see mean people and junk.

Blessings to you - and take care of yourself. And, if I may ever be of any assistance to you - please don’t hesitate to let me know?

Rick Butts
http://rickbutts.com

]]> By: Cassie http://mamasontheweb.com/2008/06/19/being-nice-will-get-you-far-so-dont-be-a-dbag/comment-page-1/#comment-7061 Cassie Fri, 20 Jun 2008 07:10:08 +0000 http://mamasontheweb.com/?p=133#comment-7061 I completely agree about the difference between men and women and how we handle conflict. When boys fought in school, they would shake hands and make up right away. If girls fought, they hated each other for the rest of eternity. No excuses. And yes, I'm horribly passive aggressive sometimes. I'm on these damn pain meds and they make me really cranky sometimes :) As for judging people and saying they're bad...that's wrong of me to do so. I should take my own advice and not call names like dbag and knob. I wasn't thinking of that one particular blog post incident this morning either but a variety of circumstances that have transpired in recent weeks and months. The ones that I haven't mentioned were downright nasty and the people involved were completely out of line. To me, that says that they really aren't that nice of a person. What's that anecdote about people who aren't nice to waiters aren't really nice people at all? I can't remember how it goes, but I'm betting that some of the people I'm thinking of are the types of people who aren't nice to waiters. I completely agree about the difference between men and women and how we handle conflict. When boys fought in school, they would shake hands and make up right away. If girls fought, they hated each other for the rest of eternity. No excuses.

And yes, I’m horribly passive aggressive sometimes.

I’m on these damn pain meds and they make me really cranky sometimes :)

As for judging people and saying they’re bad…that’s wrong of me to do so. I should take my own advice and not call names like dbag and knob. I wasn’t thinking of that one particular blog post incident this morning either but a variety of circumstances that have transpired in recent weeks and months.

The ones that I haven’t mentioned were downright nasty and the people involved were completely out of line. To me, that says that they really aren’t that nice of a person.

What’s that anecdote about people who aren’t nice to waiters aren’t really nice people at all? I can’t remember how it goes, but I’m betting that some of the people I’m thinking of are the types of people who aren’t nice to waiters.

]]> By: Rick Butts http://mamasontheweb.com/2008/06/19/being-nice-will-get-you-far-so-dont-be-a-dbag/comment-page-1/#comment-7060 Rick Butts Fri, 20 Jun 2008 07:01:37 +0000 http://mamasontheweb.com/?p=133#comment-7060 A woman friend of mine wrote a book about how men and women deal differently with conflict. Girls are taught to "be nice" "play nice" even with girls they despise, because that's what nice girls do. The primary game they play is "house" where conflict is subordinated to peace. Boys play games where we slam into each other - compete fiercely - win or lose - and then we go to dairy queen for ice cream and "hug it out." Her conclusion was that as adults women stifle their anger causing resentment - while men tease each other - and are often very aggressive and critical and then - we have a beer. So, perhaps, Ross Goldberg, who banged into me by critisizing my blog post on his blog, and me taking it to the next level with a ribbing video, are not unnamed douchebags - or knobs (who's passive aggressive now? LOL) But, maybe we rowdy little boys all grown up (well, partially) and when we see each other on the playground we'll laugh about it. But, you've judged us as bad people whom, even if we had the best source of wealth ever (which we don't) you won't listen to us because we knocked each other down on the playground. Submitted for your consideration and for the WAHM's who read it in love, Rick Butts A woman friend of mine wrote a book about how men and women deal differently with conflict.

Girls are taught to “be nice” “play nice” even with girls they despise, because that’s what nice girls do.

The primary game they play is “house” where conflict is subordinated to peace.

Boys play games where we slam into each other - compete fiercely - win or lose - and then we go to dairy queen for ice cream and “hug it out.”

Her conclusion was that as adults women stifle their anger causing resentment - while men tease each other - and are often very aggressive and critical and then - we have a beer.

So, perhaps, Ross Goldberg, who banged into me by critisizing my blog post on his blog, and me taking it to the next level with a ribbing video, are not unnamed douchebags - or knobs (who’s passive aggressive now? LOL)

But, maybe we rowdy little boys all grown up (well, partially) and when we see each other on the playground we’ll laugh about it.

But, you’ve judged us as bad people whom, even if we had the best source of wealth ever (which we don’t) you won’t listen to us because we knocked each other down on the playground.

Submitted for your consideration and for the WAHM’s who read it in love,

Rick Butts

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